Unbeneficial Results

I confess my guilt as a passionate hot headed spazz at times, but without getting in the muddy details of why's and childhood analysis, let's just say I have had just and unjust reasons nevertheless. What's important is my current stand to resist the moments of childish rage and defensive tactics of retaliation.

The most recent events have shown me my consistency in not communicating beneficially. I like many have come to a place in life that has aroused a desire to understand history more as well as our political and monetary systems considering the reality of they're effect on my life and country, and fellow humans in the world today. Some of my learning's have invoked feelings of anger, betrayal, helplessness, and frustration to name. To learn what completely alters your worldview it is not an easy digest, and being that i have to interact with the world some people end up catching the butt end of these emotions.

For example, a friend of mine was over a few weeks ago and caught me in one of these helpless emotional modes. I completely came across the wrong way and the next thing you know we are yelling at each other needlessly and aimlessly. The whole situation was unfortunate and unnecessary. There are many ways to communicate but what I have found in my own experience is that for the most part people do not want to listen to someone who is angry, frustrated, and problem focused. Dialogue is the healthy way to converse and should be done in a way that is aware of the perception of the ones with whom you are speaking. Ranting and venting can have they're place but not in dialogue nor discussion.

No situation is the same, but many times there are universal principles to apply, these are the ones I intend to apply for the rest of my life.

1. Think before I speak of what will happen I you do.
2. Listen to what people are saying to find out what they are meaning.
3. Speak kindly of others, and refrain from all negative gossip.
4. Respond not to sarcasm and cynical remarks, regard them as not my problem.
5. Admit when I am at fault or in error.
6. Remain calm and focused on maintaining a respectable and accepting composure.
7. Use simple and understandable concepts to communicate.
8. Respect the other persons and their opinions.
9. Respond positively to all negative judgments towards my objectives and goals.
10. Look people in the eyes when I speak to them.
11. Remember that my opinions are valuable.

I have come to a place where I must change how I communicate and anything less than these above applying principles is unacceptable. I can tolerate not being liked for my objectives, goals or beliefs, but for mere immaturity and lack of respect for others is something that can be prevented and changed.

" It is better to have the appearance of a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt"
- Mark Twain